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Exploring Womanhood > Tough Issues > Rape & Sexual Abuse
Safety, awareness, preparedness and prevention
Rape is a violent crime, an invasion, a frightening experience. Rape affects all women, no matter what their age, race or economic status. All women are potential victims of sexual assault. By being aware, a woman can reduce the likelihood of becoming a rape victim. This does not mean all rapes can be prevented. Rapists commit rape -- NOT VICTIMS.
Psychological Preparedness
- Accept the fact that you are a potential rape victim. Many women operate under the illusion "it will never happen to me." It may.
- Educate yourself concerning rape prevention tactics.
- Become familiar with community rape prevention and counseling.
- Become aware of locations and situations where rape is more likely to occur and avoid them, or take precautions.
Rape is the fastest rising violent crime in America. What can you do to prevent this crime?
Safety at your residence
- You may want to install a security system. A security system can be an effective means in countering and deterring criminal presence. If need be, you can install a CCTV Video Camera system to tape our property.
- If someone knocks at your door, be very careful. They may be a criminal posing as a delivery person or salesman seeking to observe the inside of your residence and specific times that you may be there. Put a chain lock on your door and a peep hole so that you can communicate with them without giving them a chance to possibly accost you. If they do not check out shut the door immediately, get their license plate from a nearby window, being careful not to allow them to see you through the window and obtain other important descriptions (ie: weight, height, hair, race), etc. And contact police.
- When moving into a new home or apartment make sure the locks are replaced or rekeyed. It is recommended that a 1" deadbolt lock us used. It is also recommended that if there is no door viewer to have one put in. "DO NOT OPEN THE DOOR UNLESS YOU KNOW WHO IS THERE."
- If you feel threatened yell or scream to attract attention.
- Never admit you are alone.
- If you are living alone use only your last name and first initial on your mail box. You may also want to make a name up and put it on your mailbox to give the appearance of a roommate.
- All entrances and garages should be well-lit.
- You may want to keep your property well manicured and maintained, especially entranceways and exits to eliminate criminals from hiding in such spots. Mainly be aware of possible hiding spots where ever you may travel to avoid surprise attacks. Put thorny bushes under bedroom windows and near entrances and exits to further deter possible criminals from hiding. Set out a very large dog water bowl in a visible place.
- Install high output lighting and automatic light sensors security devices around your property which comes on when something walks in front of them.
- Hang up on any obscene phone calls.
- Having an answering machine is fine as long as you don't state your name or telephone number or where you may be in the message. A good message may simply state "Hello, we are in, but will need a few minutes to get back to you, please leave your name and number and we will get back to you in a few moments.
- You must always provide yourself another means of alternate communications, such as a cell phone. If the criminal cuts or disconnects your phone line, you're in trouble. Store or keep a cell phone in a easily accessible place and have a plan. Having an additional separate phone line is good, but a cell phone is better.
- Do not give personal information (name, address, age) to a stranger on the telephone.
- If someone dials your number "by mistake," do not reveal your correct number. Ask what number he dialed and advise him to call again.
On the Street safety tips
- An
attacker expects a passive victim, so if you walk slowly or in
a daze, you will seem vulnerable to a potential rapist. Walk at
a steady pace, appear confident and purposeful.
- Always
stay in well lighted areas.
- Be
alert to what's around you. Listen for footsteps and voices nearby.
Look around to see if you are being followed.
- Do
not take short cuts where you would be in a deserted area.
- Walk
near the curb and avoid passing close to shrubbery, dark doorways
and other places of concealment.
- Do
not hitchhike.
- When
being followed by a vehicle, quickly turn around and walk in the
opposite direction. The car will have to turn around, which will
put it on the opposite side of the street. Keep more than an arm's
distance from vehicles, even if they are asking directions.
- If
you think you are being followed, change your pace. If the person
changes his pace to coincide with yours, cross the street, get
to lighted areas, draw attention to yourself and seek help.
- Never
get into a stranger's vehicle, even if your car breaks down and
someone offers to give you a ride to seek help. Ask him to send
help while you remain in your locked vehicle.
- If
being forced to enter a vehicle on a city street, remember that
your changes of getting help are better there than in a deserted
area where the rapist may plan to take you. MAKE NOISE.
- If
you carry a purse, hold it close to your body.
- Always
have your key ready to enter your residence or car.
Driving safety tips
- Never pick
up hitchhikers.
- Always keep
your car doors locked.
- When parking
at night, select a place that will be well-lit when returning
to the car.
- Look in back
seat and floor board before entering your car.
- When approaching
your car in a parking lot look all around the area for anything
that does not look right. If you see anything that looks suspicious
near your car keep going and call the Police as soon as possible.
If you can get in your car safely, lock the doors and go somewhere
and contact the Police about your suspicions.
- Keep gas
above 1/4 tank.
- When ever
possible travel on well lighted streets.
- If you are
ever being followed go to the nearest police department, fire
department, or open business. If vehicle pulls in behind you and
you do not know the individual blow the car horn to attract attention.
DO NOT GET OUT OF CAR UNTIL YOU ARE SAFE.
- If your car
is being repaired leave only the car keys with the repair shop.
- Be alert
to vehicles following yours. If being followed, drive to the nearest
police/fire station or where large crowds of people are gathered.
Call the police. Ask for an escort home.
- If you are
having car problems and can not raise the hood, stay in the car
and wait for help. If someone stops to help, roll down the window
just enough to talk to them and ask them to call a relative, friend,
garage or the police for you.
- If you have
nobody responsible to advise where you may be going should you
be going out on the town or on vacation do write down information
where you are traveling to and with whom on a piece of paper and
leave it in your home in a relatively visible location should
you not return. This will establish a track record history of
where you may be and will assist the authorities with an investigation.
Safety Tips For Youth
- Children
should be made aware of the dangers of accepting rides from or
talking to strangers.
- Children
should be encouraged to talk with their parents if they ever have
a problem, not only with a stranger but also with a friend or
relative.
- Children
should know a safe, well-traveled route to take to and from school.
Isolated areas should be avoided.
- Teenage baby-sitters
should not accept jobs with people they do not know, or who have
not been referred by people they know.
- Baby-sitters
should call the police immediately if anything suspicious happens
at the house. They should never open the door for strangers.
- The sitter's
parents should be called at the end of the evening to inform them
that the sitter will be home shortly.
- You may follow
the advise and safety tips recommended and still find yourself
confronted by an attacker. If it happens, you will have only seconds
to decide your method of defense, so you must prepare mentally
for the possibility of rape happening to you.
There are several ways to react to a sexual assault
The
best resistance you can use against an attacker is your common sense.
Think! Don't panic. The most important element to remember is that
you are not trying to fight the attacker, but are attempting to divert
the person long enough to get away. Always look for a way to escape.
If the attacker has a weapon, use your common sense.
Break away and run toward areas with people. Be observant so that
you will be able to remember and identify the assailant.
1.
Passive Resistance
The
goal of passive resistance is to think and talk your way out of the
situation. With passive resistance, you can:
- Try to calm
the attacker. Try to persuade him not to carry out the attack.
- Claim to
be sick or pregnant. Tell him you have a sexually transmitted
disease. This may intimidate the attacker.
- Try to discourage
him. Pretend to faint, cry hysterically, act insane or mentally
incapacitated.
- If you're
at your residence, tell the attacker a friend is coming over or
that your spouse or roommate will be back soon.
2.
Active Resistance
Active
resistance is intended to distract or temporarily injure your attacker
to create an opportunity for escape. Nobody can tell you whether or
not active resistance will be the "right" thing to do. A decision
to resist actively, however, is irreversible. Your goal is to escape,
not to win. Here are some pros and cons regarding the most common
types of active resistance:
If the attacker is unarmed, you may be able to scare, distract or
injure the person enough to make your escape.
- A yell can
surprise or frighten an attacker away if he fears people will
come to help. But yelling won't help in isolated or noisy areas.
- Scream "FIRE,"
"POLICE," or create a disturbance that will attract attention.
- STRUGGLING and FIGHTING BACK
A
forceful struggle may also discourage an attacker, but most will
retaliate and have the potential to inflict serious injuries.
However, you must not be afraid to hurt an attacker. All kicks
and blows must be forceful and should be aimed at vulnerable areas
such as the groin, eyes, or instep.
MARTIAL
ARTS
Special
self-defense skills such as judo or karate are popular. If you
are proficient in such techniques, they can be very effective.
But proficiency requires practice.
WEAPONS
Some people
carry weapons such as guns, knives, or spray chemicals to ward
off attackers. Unless you are trained and not afraid to use
these weapons, they can be very dangerous. The attacker might
be able to turn them against you. Also, some weapons cannot
legally be carried, so check with local law enforcement authorities.
Submitting to an Attack
- If you believe
you might get hurt defending yourself or if you're afraid to fight
back, don't. Sexual assault is still an assault and still a crime,
even if you do not have a single cut or bruise. Victims who
do not resist should never feel guilty; it is the assailant who
committed the crime.
- If attacked, escape
- If trapped,
stay alive
- If assaulted,
memorize details
If
you are raped
- Call the
Police Department Immediately.
- Do not shower,
douche, or change clothing.
- Have a medical
exam and internal gynecological exam as soon as possible. A delay
in time may destroy evidence.
- Semen smears
must be taken by a clinician.
- Inform clinician
of exact acts committed upon you and have the clinician note any
medical evidence of them.
- Clinician
should note any bruises or injuries bleeding, lacerations, etc.)
external or internal.
- Have clinician
test for venereal diseases (and pregnancy later, if relevant).
- Do not disturb
the scene of the assault.
- Inform police
of all details of attack, however intimate, and of anything unusual
you may have noted about the attacker. Remember what the person
said and how it was said. It may lead to the arrest of the assailant.
- Show police
any external bruises or injuries, however minor, resulting from
the attack. Police may request your clothes for purpose of evidence.
- Inform the
police if you remember anything that was not previously reported.
Information
needed by the police to catch and convict a rapist.
- Type of car
used by the rapist (license, make or model and color)
- Race
- Age, weight
and height
- Hair color
and length
- Color of
eyes
- Clothing
- Any unusual
marks, scars, tattoos, rings, etc.
- Any facial
hair
- Type of accent
- Any strange
or distinctive odor
- Last direction
of travel
Heartfelt gratitude to Officer Jerry Smith for sharing this information with exploringwomanhood.com
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