"As you make your way
through a sexual lifetime, cultural attitudes about what it means
to be a woman and a mother are bound to influence or even inhibit
how you express yourself sexually. Let your experience be your
teacher, let your desires be your guide, and keep in mind that
both of these will be in constant flux throughout your life. Sometimes
you'll crave a three minute orgasm, sometimes you'll orchestrate
a three-hour symphony, and sometimes you'll want no genital activity
at all. What you yearn for today won't necessarily be what you
yearn for tomorrow, but each and every one of your desires has
something to teach you about who you are and who you're becoming"
- Anne Semans and Cathy Winks, authors of The
Mother's Guide to Sex
Exploring Womanhood's Intimacy Questions with Anne Semans & Cathy Winks
Authors of The Mother's Guide to Sex
Enjoying Your Sexuality Through All Stages of Motherhood
Does size really matter? Cathy and Anne explain that
it's men who worry about size, not women.
Question:
Why are so many people so into the size of a man's penis? In my book,
the size doesn't matter at all. My orgasm happens in my clit or G-spot
which is not deep at all. My husband is average size and we laugh at
all the online ads that offer to lengthen his penis. What's up with
that? Would like your take on length. :)
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Anne and Cathy:
You'll probably find that most people into the size of a man's penis
are men. From an early age, guys start worrying about penis size. I
spoke with the webmaster of Jackinworld.com--a masturbation site
for men--who said this is the most common topic of inquiry among
his readers. I like to compare it to women's obsession with body size.
We spend our whole lives worrying about whether we're slim enough, they
spend their whole lives wondering whether they're big enough. And you're
right, it's not really about the length--in fact, many women complain
that a too-long penis bumps the cervix painfully during intercourse.
(If this happens, have him put his hand around the base of his penis
before thrusting.)
And as you've no
doubt heard before, "It's not the size of the tool, but what you
do with it that's important." You and your husband have learned
just how to stimulate your G-spot and your clit, but a lot of men (and
women) are woefully ignorant about basic sexual anatomy, and think that
a big penis will deliver divine orgasms, only to be sadly disappointed.
Unfortunately,
the adult industry doesn't do much to disabuse this notion, and penis
extenders and porn stars with big cocks perpetuate the myth. I will
say, however, that some women like more girth--ie a wider penis--than
their partner has, and that's a different issue than length. You can
buy sleeves for the penis, or invest in a fat dildo if that is the case.
All
this information and more can be found in the recently updated bestseller,
The
Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, written by Anne Semans and Cathy
Winks.
Questions were answered by authors Anne Semans and Cathy Winks,
and were chosen from those suggested by our readers. Perhaps your oncern
is one that is on every woman's mind! We invite you to read our
review of The
Mother's Guide to Sex, as well as additional reviews by our
staff located here.
A few words about the book from the authors can
be read here. Enjoy!
